Lauren Hayes
From The Desk Of Lauren Hayes
Salt Lake City, UT.

Dear Friend,

If you are someone who knows there’s more to love than what you were taught - and you are serious about creating deeper, freer, more honest relationships...this book may just be the spark that changes everything.


But Before We Go Any Further, A Warning:
This book is not some sort of “magic bullet” that will transform your relationships overnight without any effort.

What I’m about to share with you invites both reflection and action. 
These lessons have helped my private clients move from relationships that felt good to creating even deeper, more vibrant, and more soul-satisfying connections that reflect who they truly are.

The lessons I share in For Better or Even Better have changed me, and therefore my marriage, in ways I didn't know were possible. 

Of course, I'm still learning and practicing every day. The thing is - these lessons are for everyone - the monogamous, the curious or the already ethically non-monogamous (ENM).  Relationships are relationships, truly.

They’ve helped my private clients move from relationships that felt good — but maybe felt like there was something more or they felt ready for the next level — to creating stronger, freer, more joyful partnerships that are fully aligned with who they truly are.

I believe these lessons can help you too.

I’m not suggesting that simply reading this book will instantly give you the perfect relationship, or that your journey will be without challenges. I'm also not suggesting that opening up your relationship is the answer for you - but I am suggesting that just talking about opening up a relationship can bring some of the same benefits.

Because even contemplating hard things takes heart, honesty, and courage. And that leads to growth.

While these lessons have led to life-changing breakthroughs for many of us, everyone, every relationship - and every journey - is unique.

Of course, I’m not promising that your journey will look like mine or my clients'. I've been studying relationships, communication, and personal growth for years.  Opening my own marriage has led to the biggest learnings of my lifetime... and these lessons are for everyone.

With all of that said, let me tell you...
Exactly What You’re Getting
First of all, For Better or Even Better is different from other relationship books you’ve read.

Very quickly, I jump straight into sharing the real-life stories and lessons - the fun, the racy and the hard - the ones that helped me get radically honest with myself, and then allowed me to bring a deeper level of truth, connection, and vibrancy into my marriage... and really, every other relationship in my life.

No long, drawn-out theories.

No overwhelming “homework assignments.”

Just the reflections, prompts, and insights that are actually working for me, and for the couples and individuals I work with.

It’s a short, simple, heartfelt read.

At just 112 pages, you can finish it in one sitting - maybe curled up with your favorite drink or tucked into a quiet afternoon.

You’ll immediately “see” how we moved from a relationship that was good - but had a few "cracks in the foundation" - to one that feels more honest, more expansive, and more soul-satisfying than we ever thought possible.

And most importantly, you’ll see how you can create that shift for yourself too - in whatever relationship form is true for you.
This Book Is About So Much MORE Than Just 
Opening up a Relationship, or Not
Whether you’re opening your relationship, deepening a monogamous bond, or simply seeking more truth and joy in your connections, For Better or Even Better is about transformation at the heart level.

It’s about becoming more honest with yourself (spoiler alert, it's all about your relationship to self).
More courageous in love.
More free to live and connect on your own terms.

I’ve watched clients discover more laughter, more trust, and create entirely new possibilities for intimacy - not because they followed a rigid plan, but because they reconnected with who they truly are.

This book is your invitation to do the same.

So as you can see, how to simply improve your marriage/relationship is just the beginning.

Here’s a taste of what you will learn…

  • ​The one emotional habit that changed the way I relate to myself — and to everyone I love.
  • How a simple shift in the way you show up in hard conversations can lead to the closeness you've been hoping for.
  • What if commitment and freedom could co-exist? A fresh take on love, desire, and designing relationships that are custom- fit.
  • How finding your own voice may be the most beautiful discovery of all (even if you still fear karaoke).
  • Some simple suggestions that may just have you yelling, "Good Life Choices!" 
  • ​The one trait that will serve you best, whether ethically non-monogamous or as monogamous as they come.
You're right... that’s a lot of honest, perspective-shifting insight packed into a short, powerful read.

And the truth is, most people aren’t having these conversations, not in the traditional narratives we’ve been handed about love.

The best part is, this isn’t about following someone else’s formula - it’s about helping you hear your own truth more clearly, and build the kind of love that actually fits you.

And it Doesn’t Require You to Follow Anyone Else’s Rules - Especially Not Mine!
What I've learned from working with clients - some interested in ethical non-monogamy - some not, some practicing non-monogamy - some that never would - is that relationships start with the relationship to ourselves first. We find love and peace within the safety of our own hearts. We trust ourselves.

I've also learned the power of one conversation at a time. 

That's why each lesson ends with a handful of conversation starters. To ask yourself and to ask your partner. 

When you start with one conversation at a time, here’s what will happen.

You'll get more comfortable sharing your truth. You'll naturally get more curious about your partner and them about you. You'll laugh... you may be surprised...there's a chance you'll cry or feel insecure.

This is crucial because it lays the foundation for emotionally safety ...something we all crave.


Here's the Deal

You’re not signing up for anything but a powerful little book that could change the way you love - yourself and others.

It’s 112 pages of honest lessons and real conversation starters.
$6.99. Instant download. No shipping. No waiting.

I trust that if this book speaks to you - you’ll find exactly what you need in its pages.

The Biggest Changes Can Come 
From the Smallest Spark
There’s no countdown. No disappearing offer.
But sometimes, the biggest shifts come from saying yes in the quiet moment you feel called.

If this book is speaking to you, trust that.
That’s where real change begins — not with pressure, but with permission.

I appreciate you taking the time to read this letter and hope to hear from you soon!

Lauren Hayes
XOXO

If you’re the kind of person who skips to the end, here’s the short version:

For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist is a 112-page book filled with the real lessons that changed my relationship — and my life.

It’s honest, hopeful, and full of reflection prompts and conversation starters to help you create relationships that feel more truthful, connected, and alive.

Yes, this is a book that shares the lessons that I've learned by opening up my own marriage, but this is not necessarily a book about opening yours... unless that is something you are curious about too.

It’s not a 'How To'. It’s not about fixing what’s broken.
It’s about deepening what’s already good — and letting it become even better.

You can download it instantly for $6.99.
No catch. Just a heartfelt offering I believe in.

If the message speaks to you, I hope you’ll say yes.

Click here and claim your copy now. You won't regret it.


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